I had similar experience like booboo..gave too much too soon
but things have not soured to the extent that i need to stop her employment...although it did cross my mind a few times. I went to Perth in Mar and so allowed her to go bk after a year with us...so happened to coincide with her daughter's graduation. Promised her too early and got her tickets ready coz promo. when i need to change dates to accomodate my sil who's joining us, i'm super caught coz have to meet the time she's away. Lucky things worked out fine. Then she told me next year Mar she'll need to go for another daughter's grad. I gave it some tots and did not refuse her but told her she's supposed to only take home leave for one contract (2 yrs). then she asked me what if I go on holiday other times of the year...is she supposed to stay back at home? I told her I'll let her know only if i made plans for other hol trips and she's supposed to cough out her own trip expenses for next mar, if not she'll not have home leave for the next contract. In this case, i'm still a little lose-lose situation coz what if I don't renew her, i still have to buy her tickets to go back just that no need to waste further money to do paper work. If it's a short trip less than a week, i would have chose to park her at agent. If longer trips up to 8-10 days, i'll let her go home. Not an option to go relatives or friends coz if something goes missing, she'll be the one fingers point at. unlikely leaving maid at home alone if she's been employed for such short period only.